Back in my youth particularly when i met my girl friend later my wife, i remember her mother looking me over to see if i was suitable to marry her daughter, my wife once sat on my lap and she was told get off his lap your not married to him yet,
and many would be mother in laws protected their daughters like wise,
yet after my wife and i married she turned out to be absolutely lovely , a really nice lady, and i thought the world of her, as she never interfered or took sides in any arguments that happened from time to time,
a very thought full and caring lady, she is still missed today,
i wonder what she would have made of the things that go on today, couples sleep together have children together, and for some split up each going their own separate ways, but not all of them ,some prefer the old fashioned way of walking down the aisle even though weddings can and are expensive to plan for,
in the past couples met, got engaged, had the banns read in the church three weeks running saw the vicar and did a dummy run of what to do on the big day who stands where and who says what to whom,
and on the day itself all went fine as these rehearsals were worth practising and getting the ceremony right,
of course once children came along many were christened, and so records were kept of everything national health income tax wedding certificates
birth and death records and so on,
where as today i wonder if for many again not all of the much younger generations wanted to find out say records of their ancestors from the past
ancestry records was the place to start . and as we all know you can find out such a lot about your relatives assuming that you wanted to in the first place,
today with people having families and not having any records of any of the above mentioned , how are there children going to find out who the father was, or is, and with little records how are these men going to pay for the up keep of the children that they've brought into the world, without some sort of record to begin with ,as many quickly move on, letting the state take care of their offsprings,instead,
and the same for mothers some of whom have done like wise, or similar, again, but some but not all,
of course this doesn't apply to every one, just a small group of people who
like to have their pleasure, and walk away, when the going gets tough, particularly where money is concerned, or perhaps even a baby on the way,
some couples stick it out, and become good parents ,
like the saying goes what goes round, comes round, so in the future will some of the old fashioned ways return , or will life take a different course and direction.....again.
Q : have you any thoughts on the way we live our lives today compared to the way our parents lived in the past,.