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Yellowbird

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Life partners
« on: Oct 12, 2021, 01:19:53 AM »
How does one learn to live without their life partner
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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #1 on: Oct 12, 2021, 04:36:36 AM »
As far as I am concerned, itís not really living but existing. Every day is just one more day without Veronica
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Flying bomb

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #2 on: Oct 12, 2021, 04:57:54 AM »
It's difficult, but cultivate lots of interests and hobbies.
Keep in touch with people.
Remain mentally and physically active.


I'm glad that my wife went first as it is I who has to take
the burden of death, not her.
If the Buck stops here how can the Doe go all the way ?



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Maddie Malone

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #3 on: Oct 12, 2021, 09:42:48 AM »
Rather hard when your disabled , housebound , no friends and neighbours who will only speak when they feel like it .

Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #4 on: Oct 12, 2021, 10:39:46 AM »
Veronica was disabled to the extent that she could not have lived on her own, so had I gone first she would have had to go in a home, which she would have hated
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Re: Life partners
« Reply #5 on: Oct 12, 2021, 01:16:27 PM »
Give me down the banks if you like, but sometimes seeing what you thought of a ' life partner' in someone else's arms can be just like a bereavement, only you don't get to bury the partner and enjoy your memories.   
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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #6 on: Oct 12, 2021, 01:33:27 PM »
When my first wife and I divorced I thought it the worst thing that had ever happened to me - she walked out on without any warning and I had no clue she was taking up with someone else. In fact, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Had we stayed together I would never have met Veronica.
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Yellowbird

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #7 on: Oct 12, 2021, 07:22:33 PM »
Feeling so bad tonight, I have tried to cope but, how
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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #8 on: Oct 12, 2021, 07:35:52 PM »
Sadly, it does happen. It is over three and a half years - 194 weeks today to be exact - since I lost
Veronica, and every so often this crushing sense of loss descends upon me. To be honest, I canít see it ever going away
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Re: Life partners
« Reply #9 on: Oct 29, 2021, 01:12:47 PM »
I took months  to get over the passing of my wife.   Now every day is  just empty as  I  seem to have retreated  into a hermit like  way of life.

Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #10 on: Oct 29, 2021, 02:00:27 PM »
I took months  to get over the passing of my wife.   Now every day is  just empty as  I  seem to have retreated  into a hermit like  way of life.
Sadly, I know the feeling. Those of us who havenít suffered the loss of a spouse cannot even begin to understand the awful loss involved. It is now I over three years and seven months 


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Re: Life partners
« Reply #11 on: Dec 22, 2021, 12:35:12 AM »
I lost my darling wife in April, I do miss her so and the dark nights and Christmas if not helping me much.

Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #12 on: Dec 22, 2021, 02:38:29 AM »
This time of year, with the long hours of darkness, always makes things worse. At least this year 🤞🤞Veronicaís sister is coming up for Christmas.
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Re: Life partners
« Reply #13 on: Dec 22, 2021, 05:54:49 AM »
It's now 3 ears now since my wife passed.
They say that time heals but I don't have enough
time left for that to happen unfortunately.
If the Buck stops here how can the Doe go all the way ?



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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #14 on: Dec 22, 2021, 06:05:56 AM »
Sadly, I agree with you. I miss Veronica every much as ever today and next month it will be four years since I lost her. I think 'time heals' for a bereavement is a nonsense, a placebo intended to encourage, and, for me, failing utterly.
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