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Diasi

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #30 on: Dec 27, 2021, 05:58:05 PM »
I certainly donít - canít - celebrate Christmas and the new Year. It will forever be associated with losing Veronica
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In the same vein, my Mum died on my Dad's birthday & ever after we could recognise his birthday but we couldn't celebrate it.
Make every day count, each day is precious.
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Sciatico

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« Reply #31 on: Jan 04, 2022, 02:22:03 PM »
I have not been in a similar situation but if I croak it first, I would like my wife to have as much fun as possible with the time she has left. I would guess that most spouses feel that way.

Yellowbird

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« Reply #32 on: Jan 12, 2022, 07:56:21 PM »
Donít see much fun without my beloved husband. I do remember most dayís the fun I had with him.
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Michael Rolls

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« Reply #33 on: Jan 12, 2022, 09:42:24 PM »
That's my life as well - every day is just another one without Veronica
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Diasi

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« Reply #34 on: Jan 13, 2022, 04:41:04 PM »
Donít see much fun without my beloved husband. I do remember most dayís the fun I had with him.

That's my life as well - every day is just another one without Veronica
Mike

Add me to the list - every day is just another empty day.

I've adapted to life on my own & some days are more tolerable than others, but the word fun never comes into them.
Make every day count, each day is precious.
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Sciatico

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« Reply #35 on: Jan 15, 2022, 11:35:58 AM »
... no doubt, but most probably you are all acting against the wishes of your spouse.

If I were left alone and immobile, I would probably get back into making Dioramas and static models, like when I was a kid but much better.
Model trains were never my thing but in GB there are clubs for that and most other things.

Where I lived in GB some old people made a big model of the small historic town which then became a tourist attraction in itself. People pay to sit around it and are taken on a historical light and sound tour of the town and of all the ghosts that haunt the different places. They then and go see the places for real.

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« Reply #36 on: Jan 18, 2022, 03:34:59 PM »
It will be 3 years 2200 on the 21st February I will have said good bye to my wife Yvonne. Not easy living on your own, but with my little dog Roxy to keep me company, it help me a lot. Keeping very active playing golf and enjoying the company of others stopped me becoming a very lonely person.

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« Reply #37 on: Jan 18, 2022, 06:31:51 PM »
so true, Hugh - Sunday will be Veronica's fourth anniversary - not looking forward to it
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« Reply #38 on: Jan 18, 2022, 07:46:51 PM »
Hugh,I can't believe it is 3 years.I have nothing but admiration for you.You still love her deeply and know that she would not want you to mope and be miserable,wallowing in self-pity.Two happy souls!

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« Reply #39 on: Jan 20, 2022, 04:01:29 PM »
Its very strange but I still feel she is still with me EM. I always say good morning and good night to her each day, and finger kiss her picture on my computer screen. I am very fortunate I am quite fit and healthy and able to get out and enjoy the company of others. Its quite surprising just how many players you meet, who have lost their partners, and many at my club are female. If I was a female I would have a big problem as there is not enough bushes ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D   

Yellowbird

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« Reply #40 on: Jan 22, 2022, 10:04:41 PM »
I feel the same Hugh. Sciatico, I know my husband wouldn’t want me to be sad, but ‘acting against his wishes’ as if he could order me not to be sad !!! but that doesn’t stop me being sad, even though I have taken up several new hobbies and meet up with friends and go to clubs etc. that doesn’t stop me longing for my dear husband and being sad. He has now been dead for one year and thirty two days
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Michael Rolls

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« Reply #41 on: Jan 24, 2022, 11:15:01 PM »
Yellowbird
For what it is worth, you have my sympathy. None of us can experience anotherís pain, but we can understand it. Sunday was the fourth anniversary of Veronicaís death and the pain and loneliness are as great as ever
Mike
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« Reply #42 on: Jan 25, 2022, 09:07:43 AM »
My sympathies Michael, have you watched Afterlife on Netflix, it so reflects my feelings in many ways. Its well worth watching even if it makes you sad
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Michael Rolls

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« Reply #43 on: Jan 25, 2022, 09:28:30 AM »
Thanks
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« Reply #44 on: Feb 07, 2022, 04:56:00 PM »
I lost my dear hubby in 2016 after 67 years of marriage but he did not know me for the last 18 months of his life due to rotten Dementia.

Heartwrenching to see your loved one gradually slip away from you.

I have written down many memories of our life together and the great times we had and its good to look at the photo of him with a big smile on his face and remembering our happy marriage.

I will be 92 this year and to be honest I wont be sorry when my time comes to join him but meanwhile I am having folks contact me from worldwide telling me I am living history so its keeping my brain active by telling the tales from long ago.