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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #90 on: Oct 03, 2022, 10:20:01 PM »
My husband died on1st December so very unexpectedly Iíve now got covid, how will I cope without him
Yellow Bird - how are you off for food, etc., in the house if you can't get out? That is the reason I always keep the freezers (and the wine!) well stocked. I have a bad back (but only some of the time) which occasionally has me staggering around with a Zimmer - I only had freezers in the garage, but when the back was really bad even getting there was a big problem, so I added a small freezer in the conservatory for 'emergencies'
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« Reply #91 on: Oct 04, 2022, 09:57:32 PM »
Thanks for asking Michael Im Ok for food, have a delivery and plenty of G&T. Its not having my husband thats the hard bit, missing him specially at the moment, not that I donít miss him every hour of every day. Thanks to everyone else who so kindly commented. Must stop doing tests in the hope its gone!
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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #92 on: Oct 05, 2022, 09:34:16 AM »
yes - it's the hole in one's heart that nothing can mend. Sometimes I decide I can't bear the empty silence and just go out for a drive for an hour or more - I have to concentrate on the road instead of how lonely I feel - but then I have to return to the silence.
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« Reply #93 on: Oct 05, 2022, 11:38:14 AM »
yes - it's the hole in one's heart that nothing can mend. Sometimes I decide I can't bear the empty silence and just go out for a drive for an hour or more - I have to concentrate on the road instead of how lonely I feel - but then I have to return to the silence.
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Re: Life partners
« Reply #94 on: Oct 05, 2022, 08:23:15 PM »
I imagine that being alone when illness strikes is one of the worst features of it &, fortunately, a bridge I've yet to cross as I have very good health.

You'll find the strength to cope somehow.


I really agree with this, I don't know how we do it but we are all stronger than even we know ourselves.


Not my husband (thank God)  but my Sister who passed, you could say she was a life partner, she was my partner in crime and my best friend and confidante.  I struggle tremendously with the grief of her loss.  It's been 5 years now and the yearning in the pit of my stomach and the urge to reach out just for one touch just has not gone away and I know it never will.  Yet, life goes on and somehow I get through each day which tells me how strong a person I am............it's the same for you too.


The tidal waves of grief come like nothing we've ever known then the calm comes again and so it goes on.........


Try not to feel so alone, there are so many of us going through the same. 


Reach out and don't be afraid to talk about them, that's how I deal with it to some degree.  She is never far from my mind and never will be, because she was so precious to me. 


My heart does go out to each of you. 


It's good talk.


Perhaps a thread to talk about our lost loved ones to share our thoughts and memories might be an idea?  I dunno, just a thought.
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Yellowbird

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #95 on: Oct 06, 2022, 10:42:53 PM »
Michael how true the hole in my heart will never heal, strangely I too in desperation just get in the car and drive around, nowhere in particular it is a strange sort of comfort but as you say the sadness returns. My friends have been so supportive but of course whilst I have this wretched covid they canít visit, nor I to them. I feel as if I will never get a negative covid test reading. Will try to rant less.
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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #96 on: Oct 07, 2022, 05:22:13 AM »
I don't see your post as a rant, but an expression of feelings. All the best
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Re: Life partners
« Reply #97 on: Nov 29, 2022, 11:43:04 AM »
Soon be the day two years ago when my husband so suddenly died, how to get through the day I cant think. Everyone says time heals. NO
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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #98 on: Nov 29, 2022, 04:41:21 PM »
I know a lot of folk say it, but sadly in my experience it doesn't. In January it will be five years since Veronica died and nothing has healed at all - and to be honest, I don't see how it can
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Re: Life partners
« Reply #99 on: Dec 12, 2022, 10:30:12 PM »
Well managed to get through 1st December now Christmas to get through without my boy. Its not getting easier
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Michael Rolls

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #100 on: Dec 13, 2022, 05:22:41 AM »
Christmas is another time to get through. Apart from personal anniversaries - birthdays and the like - it is the most noticeable date on the calendar, along with January 1st to bring to mind the march of time.
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Re: Life partners
« Reply #101 on: Dec 14, 2022, 04:54:38 AM »
At least I have my family and dogs so I am not alone.
I don't want to get married again.

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Re: Life partners
« Reply #102 on: Jan 03, 2024, 05:28:01 PM »
How does one learn to live without their life partner
I can only offer my opinion from observing my paternal grandmother. She lost her devoted husband Jack (Jacob) just as he was about to draw his state pension at 65. She lived until 78 by talking to him as though he was always by her side. I brought her to live with me and she occupied the ground floor of my large Victorian villa in Teddington. She spent most of her time up with us and we soon grew used to witnessing her talk to Jack as though he was still with her. It must have been her way of coping, so we all accepted her on her terms.
If I should be left on my own, highly unlikely as I'm 5yrs older, then I will adopt the same behaviour as my nan.
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